cm_work_handler() can access cm_id_priv after it drops its reference
by calling iwch_deref_id(), which might cause it to be freed. The fix
is to look at whether IWCM_F_CALLBACK_DESTROY is set _before_ dropping
the reference. Then if it was set, free the cm_id on this thread.
Signed-off-by: Steve Wise <swise@opengridcomputing.com>
Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <rolandd@cisco.com>